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5 things you should know before dating a Chinese Girl

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As the Eastern and Western worlds become more connected, men and women from different cultural backgrounds meet and fall in love with each other.  Modern Chinese ladies are believed to be gorgeous, thoughtful and independent.  If you come across a Chinese lady in life and both of you find each other attractive. Please take the chance to learn about the 5 most important things while starting a happy relationship.    

1. Family-oriented?

'Family is life' is a concept deep down in Chinese culture. Considering how close most Chinese families are, leaving a good impression on other family members is always a plus. However, most of the time it could be quite challenging.

Don't be surprised when you hear Chinses parents against the relationship because they worry that they'll gonna lose their daughters. The mindset that their daughter's going abroad and leaving them behind troubles them. Not to mention all the stereotypes they hold toward foreigners.  

On the other hand, unlike traditional Chinese parents, young parents in the new generation tend to respect their child's will and pursuit. With minimum manipulation and the freedom to make their own decision, there are more chances you get approved by her family. The most important thing to bare in mind is that you might be the ever first foreigner your girl has introduced to the family, and facing cultural differences is inevitable.  Here's your chance to prove yourself! 

2. Dutch, what?

You have probably heard a Chinese man saying " Dutch is not allowed in China"  The truth is that Chinese girls do love to be spoiled. It's the fastest way to show your affection through good food and gifts.  Actions speak louder than words they often claim. 


But this doesn't mean it's non-negotiable,  Money issues can come up at any point in almost any relationship, so make sure you and your girl are financially compatible on the first date. 


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Chinese society has become more segregated geographically and financially, couples often have similar educations and income levels. 

This humorous ad shows how much Chinese people care about wealth, career, and social status. The sad news is. it's not exaggerated in most cases. 

3. Shower your girl with compliments 

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For the first time, you fall head over heels with a Chinese girl. How would you express your love to her? 


Speak straight: Simply a "Zuò wǒ de nǚ péng you ba" (Be my girl) Sometimes the most direct ways are the best. 

Being Subtle:  For some shy and introverted Chinese girls. "Wǒ jué de hé nǐ zài yì qǐ hěn kāi xīn, hěn fànɡ sōnɡ" (I feel very happy and relaxed when I'm with you) might be a congenial compliment. 

Being Humorous: "jiù nǐ zhè yànɡ de,chú le wǒ shuí yào ā " (Who would accept you as a girlfriend but I ?) may be a good start, but don't get cocky.


Chinese girls love compliments! If you like a Chinese girl, the strategy here is to stop beating around the bush and go with your feelings! Let her know you like her already!



>>>7 Ways to Impress the Chinese you like by TrulyChinese​

4. The Dating Etiquette

 The dating culture difference between the East and West can be significant in terms of sex, pragmatism and the expectations of marriage. Indeed, exclusive dates and monogamy are more common in the Eastern world. When it comes to an actual relationship, your Chinese girl may take it way more seriously than you can imagine. 

In other words, casual dating is relatively rare in China. They would like you to confirm the relationship not just for FWB or ONS, otherwise, Chinese girls would think you're just playing with her.


5. Overcome the language barrier


Dating a Chinese girl could be completely or partially different from your dating experiences in the past and this could bring pressure on both of you, especially when you can't understand the language each other speaks. Here are the quick guides,  hope you succeed on the speedrun.

Don’t try too hard to impress

You might think the only way to impress a Chinese girl is simply by following the tips above. Sadly, you'll gonna need more to build some chemistry. The process of practising open communication and developing trust requires time and consistent connection. Being yourself and being natural is one of the ways to get a Chinese to like you. Trying too hard to impress her may lead to an uncomfortable experience.


Get prepared and be confident!!

Now you have the most important things you need to know before dating a Chinese girl! We know this can be intimidating but it is important to remind that they will respect you for trying to communicate with them in their language.

For more help mastering this situation and others, you can book some Mandarin lessons with one of our teachers. We also run tons of cultural experiences so get ready to immerse yourself in the Eastern world!  

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